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the Bear SG

there comes a time, when you are forced to do what they fear you will do...

because you are forced into that situation by them...

get a job in singapore, move here...

if they do get violent or whatever, the law will protect you..

rainee SG

they will come and make trouble in my workplace and cause me to embarass myself there...haiz Neutral Crying or Very sad

the Bear SG

in singapore?

heard of this thing called a "restraining order" ?

they come within a certain distance of you, they'll be arrested...

they try to talk to you, they'll be arrested..

they try to email you, they'll be arrested...

like in the other topic we were talking about, you are only abused if you allow yourself to be abused...

hisoka SG

same problem she can't bear to get them into trouble Confused

the Bear SG

who's getting who into trouble?

if i'm here and you decide to stab yourself, you cannot blame me..

rainee SG

i just want to save us from public embarassment...

plus once this kinda thing happen they are going to leak out all kind of secrets in front of everyone...it is like washing dirty laundry in the public...haiz..

hisoka SG

you know as well as i do she won't think that way.

besides its hard to say its not my fualt if you are the direct initiator of the trouble even if its by their own actions.

and its different because in this case its more like you have an electric fence and they put their hands on it. you could choose to switch on the electricity or leave ti off as it was.

the Bear SG

thing about laundry after it's washed, whether public or private, it becomes clean Wink

hisoka SG

not if its an unwashable stain Laughing

rainee SG

yea...it will be hard to say it is not my fault...in a way, this might make me feel guilty for the rest of my life...

tink abt wat if it is ur own parents, then you did sth to throw them in jail...wun u feel guilty?

but if i dun take action, it means my own life will be destroyed...

tough decision Neutral

hisoka SG

yeah i know.

i don't know if i could bring myself to do that if it were my parents. i'm a failure Confused

rainee SG

no la, not a failure...

i believe every child will also not want to do this to their own parents...maybe that's why so many cases of abuse go on unnoticed...because the child is too afraid to voice out the problems for fear of getting his parents into trouble...

BadzMaro SG

its more like how the country and thier human rights etc etc has a factor in it.

in overseas , the son will not hesitate to report ur parents @ss if there is any form of abuse. But us, we take this kind of punishment as normal and we suck it in.

the Bear SG

abuse is abuse.. no matter what the hell it is called..

and abuse, has to stop or be stopped...

there is NO EXCUSE whatsoever for abuse..

BadzMaro SG

i been abused , but i understand now when i get older. So i didnt go all fuked up crazy after that. N use it as an excuse.

But abuse , what is abuse ? how do u get rid of abuse ?

the Bear SG

leave

BadzMaro SG

?

leave the very hands that carried u when u were a baby , fed u , invested in you .. hell i guess so.

BadzMaro SG

but seriously , i am sure you all got abused before someway or another ma right ?

the Bear SG

yah..

thing is this.. you didn't ask to be put on earth by them.. they did so and frankly, parents OWE their children..

what? children owe their parents?? so parents become bloody selfish things to put a lot of people on earth to owe them a living??

parents.. when they do the correct thing, bring up their children right, their children will love them unconditionally.. and when the parents set their children free, the children will go unfettered... but they will return.. out of love...

the Bear SG

we're talking about chronic abuse.. where it doesn't stop...

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